It is perhaps interesting to explore and think deeply about our daily actions in relation to the relationship between men and women. Let's think about the situation, from the perspective of heterosexual men, where they pay for dinner/drinks for women when going out on a date. Although this blog entry is only to have fun with logical thinking and with a question related to our daily life, it seems that men's buying dinner/drinks for women may be, in nature, similar to prostitution, yet a less "sophisticated" form with some exceptions.
Although one might be able to come up with other possibilities, men might treat women with dinner and drinks may be because: 1) it is chivalrous of men to treat women with such; 2) men can not resist the silent consensus both among men and women that they need to buy such; 3) men are afraid to be looked down on by being "cheap;" and 4) men think that they can buy women's hearts by buying fancy dinner and drinks. Looking at the four possibilities, we can say that first three are products of an external force. An external force, I mean, is a social norm that shapes or leads men to behave in a certain way: buy dinner/drinks for women. The fourth reason, however, is different in nature. Though just buying dinner or drinks is less likely to grantee such an acquisition, it is rather an expression of men's internal desire to acquire women physically or psychologically than a restricted behavior of men due to to the external force.
As radical as it may sound, buying dinner and drinks in hope of buying women's heart or proceed to the "next level" is in similarity with prostitution. Or, prostitution is a more sophisticated form of the expression because if you pay, you will get the service; on the other hand, it is not assured that you will get it even though you pay in the situation with men's buying dinner and drinks because women might not be looking for more; because women may be just taking advantage of the situation to get free meal and beverage; and so on...
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